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Is Debt Straining your Marriage?

Apr 23, 2013 ||


Sometimes debt strains a relationship and couples don’t recognize it. Breakups, fights, and tension are blamed on more obvious causes instead of the underlying problem of mounting bills and dwindling bank accounts. Here are some tips to help ease the tension and open the lines of communication between couples that are faced with mounting bills.

Don’t place blame

Playing the game of “he spent-she spent” only makes matters worse. Spouses are often firmly divided, one taking the role of over-spender and the other the role of the hoarder.

Admit there is a problem

The first step is to admit that there is a problem. Identify the real problem and focus on solving it.

Deal with concerns in a positive way

Families tend to not sit down and discuss money and financial issues. It’s important to communicate your feelings calmly and rationally. Don’t focus on the suffering, instead focus on the reason for the overspending and how to make realistic changes.

Get to the root of poor spending habits

Look for patterns. Identify strengths and weaknesses in your financial planning and management skills. Sometimes the root of the problems lies in the attitudes and practices that your parents instilled in you.

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